The problem with us girls is that we often stay in love with the same person who hurt us and gave us all this pain and bullshit in our life. No matter how much pain he caused you, or no matter how badly he treated you, you still love him. Lucky is the guy who gets those sweet love messages even though he doesn’t deserve one.

Girls, do not settle for that guy. If he treats you bad, you don’t deserve to be with that person. If he hurts you constantly, do not keep on hoping that he’ll change for you. He won’t. And no matter how much you make yourself believe that if you love someone, you’ll accept him for whoever he is, it won’t work. You’re just hurting yourself.

Yes, pain comes together with love when you’re in a relationship. But if you don’t see his efforts on you anymore, if you don’t feel that he loves you anymore, and if he tells you that he’s better off without you, let him go. You don’t need to run after him and beg for another chance. Your heart deserves to filled with love by someone who will truly treasure you and will truly care about your feelings.

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I get several questions on my inbox about “how do I really move on so easily” Well in fact, it’s not easy. Thinking about him at night and wishing that he was here with me, crying myself to sleep covered with blankets and pillows, was one of the greatest challenges I’ve faced in life. But this break up won’t break me up as an individual. 

1. I don’t think that it’s the end of the world, even if he left. Because it’s not. He just left. I won’t die if he’s gone. Yes, it will hurt, but it will not be the end of the world. Do not exaggerate.
2. I cry. Whenever I feel like crying because I miss him and there’s nothing I can do to have him back, I imagine scenes in my head on how do I release these emotions. I imagine that I’m talking to him and I’m telling him all the painful feelings that I feel. This way, I can release the sad feeling inside my heart.
3. I blog. Through writing and penning down my thoughts, I also release the painful feelings inside. Then I’ll suddenly think that I’m already okay.
4. I make myself believe that there’s still that someone who will come to my life who will never be like my ex. I put in mind that even after this break up, I will find someone who will never leave me because he loves me.
5. I don’t wish for another chance. Okay, no matter how much I really wanted him back, I don’t put in mind that someday we’ll get back together. Because that way, I will only assume and I will only hurt myself if it wouldn’t happen.
6. I don’t stalk his profile anymore. Yes, I can see his Facebook updates, but I don’t dare to stalk all his updates. By ignoring all his posts, I feel like I’m a stronger person, because the person whom I cannot ignore before is already someone whom I can ignore now.
7. I don’t send him sad text messages/GMs. I will only look pathetic. Yes, I text him if I need to, but only to be civil with each other, I do not text him anything regarding our past relationship.

I miss my ex, yes. That wouldn’t be new. I still think that “What if we didn’t break up, how will our relationship go right now?” But, that’s life. People come and go. And when someone left you, that doesn’t mean that it’s the end of your life. It’s the end of their roles in your life. Girl, you are worth someone’s love, who will never leave you and will fight for your relationship until the end. So don’t be afraid that after a break up, you will never be loved again. Because you will. And this time, you will be loved more.

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